Asexual Older Adults (Research, Asexuality Video 8:01)

Clara Meadmore, an asexual older adult, was Britain’s oldest virgin at 105 years old. According to an article by Luke Salkeld in Mail Online, Clara credited not having sex as the secret of her longevity. Proud of her innate celibacy, she said she just wasn’t interested in all the “hassle” of having sex. Ironically, while many people wrongly stereotype older adults as being asexual simply because they are old, people like Clara intrinsically have never had any interest in sex or sexual attraction to others.

I became interested in learning more about asexuality in older adults after attending an informative Area Agency on Aging workshop about healthcare and other life issues of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) older adults. As we discussed misunderstanding and intolerance regarding sexual orientation, one participant reminded us that asexuality is frequently excluded in these conversations. Later while researching this topic on my own, I discovered that asexuality, particularly regarding older adults, has only become scientifically researched as a sexual orientation in recent years.

Like many in the LGBT population, asexuals  have unique issues adjusting to a predominantly heterosexual and sex-oriented society. Some have the need to “come out of the closet” and explain their identity in order for others to understand them better. Others may feel ashamed, isolated, or confused because they are different from the standard society conveys as normal sexuality. They are a diverse community with people experiencing relationships in various ways. For example, some may have close relationships with sexual or asexual partners, although the asexual partners have no sexual attraction. Emotional and romantic attractions are not the same as sexual attraction.

I noticed that the media focus on asexuals emphasizes younger adults. In one asexual group forum I visited on the Internet, an older adult woman asked several times for help in finding other older asexual adults with whom she could communicate. Asexual older adults have more difficulty finding resources and supportive groups where they can share their concerns in an accepting environment. Fortunately, the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) hosts the world's largest online asexual community and a large archive of resources on asexuality that can benefit anyone interested in this topic. The Asexual News is another helpful resource.

The following video titled Asexuality: The Making Of A Movement Trailer focuses on the emergence of the asexual community and the lives of several asexual people. The completed full-length film documentary directed by Angela Tucker premiered at the Frameline Film Festival in San Francisco's Roxie Theatre on June 18, 2011.

Frances Shani Parker, Author

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Rural vs. Urban End-of-Life Care (Nursing Home Research, Video 1:37)

Dying is universal, but what about differences and similarities in end-of-life (EOL) care? Most of my nursing home experiences with hospice care have been in an urban area. I was curious about this University of Rochester, NY research that compared rural and urban end-of-life care in nursing homes.

The purpose of this study by the University of Rochester, NY was to examine urban-rural differences in end-of-life quality of care provided to nursing home residents. A national sample of nursing homes was used. Three measured areas of focus were in-hospital death, hospice referral before death, and presence of severe pain.

Research results indicated there were urban-rural differences for in-hospital death and hospice quality measures, but not for pain. Compared with nursing homes located in urban areas, facilities in smaller towns and in isolated rural areas had significantly worse EOL quality for in-hospital death and hospice use. Differences were not statistically significant between facilities located in small towns and isolated rural areas. 

According to the report, this study provides “empirical evidence for urban-rural differences in EOL quality of care using a national sample of nursing homes.” This research data is important because it serves as a necessary first step toward improving EOL care for dying nursing home residents and for bridging the urban-rural gap.

This video titled End of Life: Burdensome Transitions from Brown University refers to another EOL study that addresses health care transitions such as moves from the nursing home to the hospital. These burdensome transitions can result in medical errors and lack of care coordination. For persons with advanced dementia, they can cause emotional distress and agitation. According to this study, such transitions are not consistent with goals of providing dying patients with comfort, and a fifth of them experience at least one during their last three months. African Americans and Hispanics were more likely than whites to experience these burdensome transitions.

Frances Shani Parker, Author

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Parkinson’s Disease: Children’s Views (Video 5:19)

Parkinson’s disease, a degenerative nervous system disorder, is common among older adults. Symptoms can include impaired shaking (tremors), walking, movement, and coordination. As with any disease, children are impacted by family members who have it. Having been an educator of students from ages three through eighteen for many years, I know that a quick way for them to believe incorrect information about important topics is to have adults not give them accurate age-appropriate answers to questions they may or may not ask. John Provo, a grandfather with Parkinson’s disease, is a man who addresses this concern.

He meets children’s informational needs about Parkinson’s disease by finding out what they want to know, helping them understand and cope with the disease, and by giving them concrete ways to help someone who has it. He invited children from all over the world to write to him about their experiences with parents and grandparents with the disease. He has created several videos specifically with children in mind. These are questions children often have about Parkinson’s disease:

What is Parkinson’s disease?

What causes it?

Is there a cure?

Is Parkinson’s disease hereditary or contagious?

What changes will occur with someone who has the disease?

Can someone die from Parkinson’s disease?

In this videoThrough the Eyes of a Child -Part 5.wmv, John Provo’s granddaughters speak about their Parkinson’s disease experience with him.

"Life is not always easy for you, or the people you love.  Be brave, be kind, be understanding".

                                          - John E. Provo

Frances Shani Parker, Author

Becoming Dead Right: A Hospice Volunteer in Urban Nursing Homesis available in paperback at many booksellers and in e-book form at Amazon and Barnes and Noble booksellers.

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